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Theran: "Whose Bed Is It Anyway?"

NYT image by Stephen Webster

It's their own damn fault - learn to parent

Thanks to Theran who misses the parenting flame wars of old - LIGHT 'EM UP THERAN!

Whose Bed Is It Anyway?
By Penelope Green

THIS is what 3 a.m. looks like at the Costello house, a diminutive red brick three-story in the West Village: On the second floor, Harrison, age 5, is splayed, sideways and snoring, across his parents’ king-size, Anglo-Indian four-poster, having muscled his mother out completely and pushed his father, Paul, a 35-year-old photographer, to the extreme edge of the bed. Sara Ruffin Costello, the style director of Domino magazine, is upstairs in her 3-year-old daughter Carolina’s bed, which is a hammered-metal four-poster queen dressed in pink paisley sheets with a ruffle. “It is the bed I would have if I were single,” Ms. Costello, 38, said. “It is my dream bed, which is a good thing because I spend a lot of time in it.” Harrison’s bed, his fourth, a trundle model from Ikea, is empty and pristine, the least-used space in the house.

“I used to get hysterical and wonder, what is this new life of stumbling around in the middle of the night?” Ms. Costello said. “Now it’s just so oddly part of the routine. Paul and I wonder, will we ever sleep together again?”

The Costellos are not alone in not being alone in their bed. But they are also not the happy hosts of the so-called family bed that’s been inching its way into the mainstream. “It is everybody’s Achilles’ heel, I think — this rotating, and not sleeping,” Ms. Costello said. “Yet it is so gross to think you’ve ended up with a family bed.” Like a lot of parents right now, Ms. Costello is a reluctant co-sleeper, too tired to disrupt a practice that may irritate one or both adults, but, in the end, seems to promise the “most amount of sleep for the most people in the house,” as Miriam K. Schneider, the mother of 11-year-old twin daughters, said.

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“By the time I get into bed at night,” she said, “I’ve really had it. I can’t spend from 1 to 3 in the morning running back and forth, moving them back to their beds. I will tell you that my daughter does kick and spin. My husband will swear she pulls the chest hairs out of his chest. But if I don’t make an issue out of this, I do — we do — get a decent amount of sleep, at least six hours. The only thing that gives me a little bit of hope and comfort is the thought that I’m sure I won’t have teenagers sleeping in my bed.”

The difficult part of excerpting this article is figuring out what to cut. The whole thing has to be read to be believed. It's nuts.

Maybe I am out of touch, and I don't have kids yet, but did *any* of you out there sleep with your parents until you were almost teenagers? What about just shutting the door? These people are spending money of therapists who *specialize* in getting relatively old children to sleep in their own bed. WTF?

Anyway, I've been missing this kind of thread, so I thought I would send one in.

- posted by theran